How to support your spouse after a miscarriage
Going through the loss of a miscarriage can be devastating. Even though miscarriages are common we still don’t talk about it enough. The loss and grief can have a profound impact on a marriage or relationship and so it is important to have an idea of how to address it so that both partners feel heard, connected and not alone.
Understanding Your Partner’s Response to A Miscarriage
It is important to know that there is no right way to respond or process the loss of a miscarriage. For many parents, a miscarriage is a loss of a child and so they will need the time, support and space to process it as a loss of a child. Some people might not even acknowledge it as a loss and will feel comfortable moving forward from the miscarriage easier than others. There is no shame in how you respond, it is okay. However, it is important to communicate with your spouse or partner about how you are feeling and why you feel you are feeling that way.
Ways to Support Your Spouse After a Miscarriage: Share your grief about miscarriage
Make time to discuss the loss and how you are feeling about it. At first, one or both of you might be in denial. Will the other might be a deep sadness. You might not be on the same journey as your partner as your process grief, but create the time and space to talk about what you are feeling, what you are thinking and listen to each other’s experiences. Listening, without judgement or comment is often the best thing you can do during this time.
Don’t Rush to Fix Things after Miscarriage
Often, as partners, we want to offer a quick solution or help to our partner when we see our significant other is suffering. Though that can be helpful, this is often not what your loved one needs now as they are grieving. What they need is for someone to be there for them, listen and just be. Refrain from trying to offer a quick solution such as: “you will get pregnant again”, “We can try again next month”, “we know you can get pregnant, we can try again” or “you can’t lie in bed all day again, it will just make you sadder”. You might have the best intention in these comments but they do not allow you to validate the feelings of your partner. When they hear you say these things they might feel like it is not okay to grieve and be sad after the loss or that there feelings are not valid.
It is okay for them to be sad, it is okay for them to cry. If you feel that it is going on for a really long time and you are concerned for their mental health or well-being, it might be a good time to talk about extra support through a counselor or therapist that specializes in pregnancy and infant loss.
Getting Help with Grief after Miscarriage
If you feel yourself or your partner is not coping well with the loss and they are exhibiting signs of depression or anxiety it might be a good time to talk about seeking professional help. At the Heard Counseling, we have therapists in Miami, Fl and online in Florida that work with parents that are going through pregnancy and infant loss or miscarriage. If you feel like you are overwhelmed with a sadness and you don’t know what to do, or you see that your partner is consumed with grief and you are concerned that there has not been a shift in their emotions, it might be a good time to reach out to a few therapist in Miami, or online in Florida, and see if they are a good fit for you and your family.
You are not alone, so many mothers and fathers struggle with knowing how to move forward after a miscarriage and a loss and feel as if they will never ever be able to move forward. Therapy can help. We are here for you offering online therapy in Miami, FL for grieving parents.
We offer online therapy for pregnancy and infant loss in Florida. Learn more about our services here and reach out if we can be of help.
Begin Online Therapy for Pregnancy and Infant Loss in Florida:
At The Heard Counseling, we understand that immense pain you are feeling- it is overwhelming. But, we don’t want you to continue to suffer through your grief feeling alone and without any support. We will help you find ways where you can honor your child and pregnancy and think about ways you can find peace again. To begin online therapy in Florida, follow these steps:
Contact our South Florida counseling center,
Request an initial consultation appointment with an online therapist
Allow yourself the opportunity to heal through counseling.
Other services offered at the heard counseling:
The Heard Counseling offers mental health services tailored to meet the mental health needs of adults, teens and couples at our therapy center based in Miami, Florida. Right now, all of our services are online therapy in Florida . In addition to therapy for pregnancy and infant loss, they also offer postpartum anxiety and postpartum anxiety treatment, birth trauma treatment, therapy for dads, therapy for moms, infertility counseling and support, and counseling for teens. Check out their blog for valuable mental health tips. Contact their counseling office to learn more about the many ways they can help you feel yourself again and better connect with your family.